Thursday, February 21, 2008

JOHN

It's hard to believe that John is no longer with us. We attended his memorial service in Carlisle, Pennsylvania on Feb 16 following his death on Feb 9. John and Linda had been living there over the past 4 years.
John had just turned 59 years old. He had fought a courageous battle with Lou Gehrig's Disease over the past 3 years. Walking close beside him was his equally courageous wife of 35 1/2 years, Linda.

I don't claim to know all the details of John's early life. He had been born in Newfoundland and lived some years in England as a child before coming with his parents to live in Hamilton.

His chosen profession was that of a Respiratory Technologist and he worked effeciently at that job for 27 years. After restructuring occurred at St. Joseph's Hospital in Hamilton in 1994, he worked at several other jobs.
I remember back in about 1970 of Tom and I double dating with John and Linda. John had met Linda at a Coffee House event at St Joe's where he was working and where Linda was a student nurse. John took notice of the petite attractive Linda, singing and strumming her guitar, dressed in a lovely dress which definitely was becoming to her womanly features. She surely caught John's attention.
John's priority was taking care of his wife and the two children they were blessed with, Kelly and Matthew. When I say, "taking care of", I mean, he made sure they were each pampered and as happy as he could make them with whatever he could do. A very important way he could do this, was to be sure they were well-fed. Linda, was a great cook, but was often busy with her job, and moved over in the kitchen, so John could do the day to day cooking that needed to be done. John often used "Diana Sauce" when he was cooking chicken.


John used to enjoy challenging our little girls about cleaning their rooms. He'd tell them to grab a garbage bag and get to work. Yes, their rooms were indeed in need of a good going over and the garbage bags were put to great use.
We holidayed with John and Linda at Camp Kahquah for many years. In the evening our girls would be included in a procession including Kelly and Matthew, and march behind the Pied Piper, John, to the washrooms to brush their teeth as they sang along with him

"We're in the army now,
We're not behind the plough,
We'll never get rich, digging a ditch,
We're in the army now"

Oh yes, the memories are rich.
When Linda married John, he professed his religion to be Roman Catholic. After several years of Linda attending the Ridgemount Brethren in Christ Church, John began, ever so cautiously, to join her, at first infrequently and then on a regular basis. I still remember the joy of the day of his adult baptism. Indeed, that was a time of celebration.

But John is gone now. A wonderful friend is no longer with us. It feels good reminiscing and thinking about him. We look forward to the day when we will join with him in our heavenly home



Tuesday, February 12, 2008

What time is it?

It seems like I'm always racing against the clock. Whether it's going to bed, getting up, getting ready for work, going to church or an appointment, visiting my family or friends...the clock is dictating the rythmn of my life. And, to top it off, I'm always being challenged by the clock, running a little later than I ought, taking a chance, not sure I'll make it on time.
I sense that in the large scheme of things, the clock is ticking. News of earthquakes, strange weather patterns, storms, hurricanes, drought, flooding, famine, earthquakes, recession, wars....hmmm why does this theme ring a bell within me? Yes, the clock is ticking, ever closer to the deadline for which we must all be ready. Please join with me in being ready in time, not taking a chance of being late for the ultimate deadline.
Matt 25:13 “So you, too, must keep watch! For you do not know the day or hour of my return." - Jesus

Thursday, February 7, 2008

After the storm


This past week has been a week of storms. I've driven through fog, lightening, snow, freezing rain, wind...you name it, we've had it this week. As I head out for my nightly drive through the country, I am sure to have my stash of emergency supplies with me. A shovel, boots, kitty litter, salt, blanket, candles, lighter....and one more very, very important item - my camera! Last night was no exception to the recent weather events. I drove through freezing rain and snow, thinking that just may-be on the drive home in the morning, I might be able to take a good picture. So this morning, after working 2 hours overtime until my colleague could get pulled out of the ditch and to work, I headed home. But I took a detour on Mt Olivet Road. There I came across this winter scene. There is always something beautiful after the storm.

Monday, January 28, 2008

Grandma Moved....again!

Jan 20 was Grandma's 100th birthday. Her health had been declining steadily and it was hard to know how to plan a birthday celebration. After much debate, it was decided that despite the fact that she might not be able to participate in the festivities, that we were going to acknowledge this very special milestone with a cake, some flowers, and candles, all featuring the colour pink, as that was her favourite colour.

However things took a decidedly different turn. As we arrived with cake and decorations in hand, we were greeted with the news, that after a few hours which decidedly proclaimed her a centenarian, she left us here, holding the cake so to speak, and went to her heavenly home where she could truly celebrate in vibrant health, with perfect eyesight and hearing, with Jesus, the angels, and her many friends and loved ones who are already enjoying life in the land where we'll never grow old.

Happy Birthday, Grandma!

Friday, November 16, 2007

Grandma Moved!


Grandma Heise will be 100 in January. She is my mother's step mother having married Grandpa over 40 years ago. Yesterday she moved from the Retirement area, Southview, into Gardenview, the Long Term area of Parkview Meadows. Now we truly have a family affair. I work full-time as charge nurse on the night shift. Mom has been a resident there for almost 2 years and now Grandma has joined. Life has become quite hard for Grandma. Her eyesight has dimmed significantly, her hearing is extremely dull, and there is now increased difficulty with her thinking. However, she is in a good place, with many wonderful caregivers around her. I am blessed to be able to be there as well to help her in this final part of her journey.

Thursday, November 15, 2007

Remembering....


Today I am remembering my beloved sister, Phyllis who left us and went to heaven 5 years ago. I still miss her so much. There are many others who also miss her and have had to learn how to live without her. She filled so many roles for so many people. She was wife, mother, sister, daughter, aunt, friend, joker, listener, counsellor, confidante, always ready to talk, shop, quilt, sew, discuss ideas, give advice, laugh, cook, bake, read, joke around, pray, make a new friend.

I think of some of the changes over the past 5 years. One new thing is Facebook. She would have loved reconnecting and deepening connections with many old and new friends. Other changes are the new extended family members who have either been born or entered the family through marriage. She would have been able to watch the young mature and the elderly get older.

Yes, it is true that time has passed and there have been many changes since Phyl left. But I believe we all can agree that knowing and being in relationship with her has made a great impact upon us. We will never forget her.

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Busy Week

We have had a busy week. Tom was in hospital from Oct 30-Nov 8. Dunnville Hospital is an amazing little hospital and Tom received the best of care by Dr. Reddy and the nurses there. He's home now with Lifeline in place and with Alicia staying with him at night. After everything she's been through, she's quite nervous about her Dad's health. Although he was considered well enough to come home, he is still very weak and has a troublesome cough. Alicia, of course is still mourning the death of her stillborn daughter 3 weeks ago. She has also lost her uncle Bob Solon, Tom's sister Wanda's husband,who died suddenly on Tuesday with a massive stroke. It certainly has been a rough week for many in our family.
This very familiar reading expresses my experience through these days.

One night a man had a dream.
He dreamed he was walking along
the beach with the Lord.

Across the dark sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene, he noticed
two sets of footprints in the sand,
one beloning to him and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.
He noticed that many times along the path of his life
there was only one set of footprints.
He also noticed that it happened at the
very lowest and saddest times in his life.
This bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it.

"Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life there is
only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why when I needed you most
you would leave me."

The Lord replied "My precious, precious child,
I love you and would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffereing,
when you see only one set of footprints in the sand,
it was then that I carried
you."